The Navigating Destructive Relationships materials – videos and workbook – are meant to be used in tandem with participation in a G4 group. But they can also be used in conjunction with a counseling or mentoring relationship. We strongly encourage you not to take this journey alone!

* The 2022 live audience version of these materials is still available here. This edition of taught in studio talking directly to G4 participants.

What Is G4?

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How to Use G4 Materials?

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Recommended: If you want to go through these series part-by-part (with only one video per page) and a link to the next video, you can begin that journey here.

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Step 1
PREPARE yourself physically, emotionally, and spiritually to face your suffering.

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Part One:
What Is a “Destructive Relationship”?
What Is “Navigating”?

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Part Two:
Making Your Preparation Plan

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Step 2
ACKNOWLEDGE the specific history and realness of my suffering.

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Part One:
Creating the Categories to Accurately Name Our Experiences

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Part Two:
Deciphering Dishonor from Destruction

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Step 3
UNDERSTAND the impact of my suffering.

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Part One:
Five Qualities of a Destructive Relationship

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Part Two:
Six Effects of Living with Abuse and Addiction

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Part Three:
Four Principles for Thinking Well about Boundaries

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Step 4
LEARN MY SUFFERING STORY which I used to make sense of my experience.

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Part One:
How We Narrate Our Lives

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Part Two:
Who Is God? Who Are You?

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Part Three:
Who Are Others? What Is Life?

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Part Four:
Articulating Your Suffering Story

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Step 5
MOURN the wrongness of what happened and receive God’s comfort.

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Part One:
What Are We Mourning?

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Part Two:
What Is the Difference between Mourning and Bitterness?

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Part Three:
How Do We Mourn?

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Step 6
LEARN MY GOSPEL STORY by which God gives meaning to my experience.

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Part One:
Who Am I?
Who Is the Person Who Hurt Me?

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Part Two:
Who and Where Is God?
What Should I Expect from My Friends?

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Part Three:
Where Am I?
Is Love Worth Vulnerability?
What Am I Living For?

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Step 7
IDENTIFY GOALS that allow me to combat the impact of my suffering.

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Part One:
Gaining Perspective

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Part Two:
Building Resilience

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Part Three:
Growing Positive Influence

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Step 8
PERSEVERE in the new life and identity to which God has called me.

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Part One:
Marks of a New, Healthier Normal

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Part Two:
Preparing to Transition from G4

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Part Three:
The Divorce Decision

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Step 9
STEWARD all of my life for God’s glory

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Part One:
Nine Questions to Steward Your Life for God’s Glory

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Appendix:
How to Develop a Safety Plan

Appendix:
How to Coduct an Intervention

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Note: This video was filmed as part of the Overcoming Addiction series. That is why the cover image and my teacher attire are different.

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