Question: I was married for 30+ years before losing my wife a couple of years ago. As a young person and throughout our marriage I struggled with masturbation. Frankly, I can see how it prevented me from enjoying sex with my wife as God intended. I want to honor God better than I have in any other season of my life. But in my loneliness I am prone to fantasize about my wife and masturbate. I know it would be wrong to fantasize about anyone else. Should I abstain from fantasizing about my wife?

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