This is the fifth video in a nine part series entitled “True Betrayal: Overcoming the Betrayal of Your Spouse’s Sexual Sin.” True Betrayal has a complementing seminar entitled “False Love: Overcoming Sexual Sin from Pornography to Adultery.” For more information on either seminar, please follow the links provided.
True Betrayal: Step 5 from Equip on Vimeo.
The follow quotes are part of the teaching notes being referenced.
STEP 5
MOURN the wrongness of what happened and receive God’s comfort.
“We found that not recognizing the loss, not mourning, only made it worse (p. 131)… It took us a while to identify the things we had lost, and even when we did, accepting that they were really gone was more difficult that we expected it would be. However, once we were able to name them, it seemed we had taken another step on the path of healing. We didn’t feel so stuck (p. 132).” Gary & Mona Shriver in Unfaithful
“Forgiving the addict prematurely is a common problem for many partners… It is essential for you to grieve your losses before being able to forgive (p. 50).” Stephanie Carnes in Mending a Shattered Heart
“It is definitely a healing moment, however, when both infidel and spouse can acknowledge the depth of pain the adultery has caused: when the spouse can say they believe the infidel ‘gets it’ (p. 117).” Gary & Mona Shriver in Unfaithful
“We had to mourn the time of Gary’s unfaithfulness, but that did not mean his faithfulness to Mona or to God could not be resumed (p. 135).” Gary & Mona Shriver in Unfaithful