What is the least obvious and most important part of a fish tank? The water. Water is essential for the life of the fish and plants. Water upholds and sways the decorations. Water is what reflects the light in “aquatic” ways and captures our attention. Yet no one ever looks at a fish tank and says, “Wow! You’ve got great water.” If the tank has black beard algae, then people may say, “Yuck! You need to clean your water.”

Water in a fish tank shares a roll similar to day-to-day communication in a marriage. It is essential for the vitality of the marriage, surrounds all the special and significant moments, and it captures all the “relational” qualities of a marriage that we were made to enjoy. But day-to-day is too often ignored or neglected unless it reaches a point that it is noticeably unhealthy.

The following evaluation is designed to help you assess the day-to-day communication in your marriage.


This resource was taken from the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Communication” seminar. Several of the plumblines from this section of the seminar are:

  • Our regular, day-to-day communication is what determines how we “normally” communicate.
  • Good day-to-day communication is both preventative and a buffer for conflict.
  • Enjoying and cultivating common conversation is the life blood of a lifelong relationship.
  • Building a conversationally full marriage can be a key step towards a conversationally full prayer life.

Part One:  Saturday February 16, 2012
Part Two: Saturday February 23, 2012
Time: 4:00 to 5:30 pm or 6:00 to 7:30 pm
Location: The Summit Church, Brier Creek South Venue
Address: 2415-107 Presidential Drive; Durham, NC 27703
Cost: Free