This video segment is one of six presentations in the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Foundations” seminar. There will be four more seminars in this series covering the subjects: communication, finances, decision making, and intimacy. As those presentations are ready they will be posted on this blog.

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Section Two Resource: Marriage Evaluation_We Identity & Leave and Cleave
Worksheet One: Jigsaw Marriage Excercise

Memorize: Matthew 19:4-6 (ESV), “[Jesus] answered, ‘Have you not read that he who created them from the beginning made them male and female, and said, ‘Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh”? So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let not man separate.’” As you memorize this passage reflect upon these key points:

  • “From the beginning” – Marriage’s existence and design were not God’s plan B response to anything.
  • “Leave… cleave” – Your response to the world around you, even family, is changed when you enter a marriage.
  • “One flesh” – You’re sharing life when you marry. How you think about and administrate life should display this.
  • “No longer two” – Jesus re-emphasizes the oneness of marriage to show how radically it transforms our identity.
  • “God has joined” – Once you have made a covenant, God’s seal supersedes your choice in terms of importance.

 Teaching Notes

“How a man thinks about marriage will certainly affect his perspective of his role, his wife’s role, and the relationships itself (p. 60).” Stuart Scott in The Exemplary Husband

“Society still considers the parent-child relationship to be a covenantal one, not a consumer relationship (p. 81).” Tim Keller in The Meaning of Marriage

“You must individually receive your spouse as God’s provision… You must accept His gift. Receiving your spouse demonstrates your faith in God’s integrity. Adam’s focus was on God’s flawless character, not Eve’s performance. He knew God, and he knew that God could be trusted (p. 87)… In the 100/100 plan, there is no talk of ‘meeting each other halfway.’ You are both willing to do anything it takes to make the marriage work (p. 94).” Dennis Rainey (editor) in Preparing for Marriage

“What most divorces mean is that at least one party, and possibly both, have ceased to put the gospel first in their lives (p. 35).” Gary Thomas in Sacred Marriage