This post is an excerpt from the study guide which accompanies the “Overcoming Codependency” seminar. This portion is an excerpt from “ACKNOWLEDGE the specific history and realness of my suffering.” To RSVP for this and other Summit counseling seminars visit

Click Here to Link to the On-Line, Self-Score Evaluation

Printable PDF Evaluation: codependency-assessment

The material for this evaluation is arranged into three categories, which are meant to capture different experiences commonly referred to as codependency. The three unhealthy relational patterns are not mutually exclusive. However, this evaluation help you articulate and gauge the severity of patterns common to each unhealthy relational pattern.

  1. Codependent Relationships Involving Addiction – In this codependent pattern you are responding unhealthily to your loved one’s abuse of pleasure. As your loved one gives more of his or her life to addiction, the neglected responsibilities and added crises begin to fall on those around them. The responses below are the classic unhealthy way that family and friends often respond to these added pressures.
    • Covering Up
    • Rescuing and Fixing
    • Nagging
    • Threatening
  2. Codependent Relationships Involving Abuse – In this codependent pattern you are responding unhealthily to your loved one’s abuse of power. Your loved one thrives on control. In order for them to have more, you must have less. The responses below are the classic unhealthy ways family and friends respond to a relationship built upon an imbalance of power.
    • Lying and Creating a False Story
    • Constricting Social Sphere
    • Self-Doubt
    • Retaliation
  3. Codependent Relationships Marked by a Fear of Man – These qualities are often more dispositional than habituated reactions to an unhealthy relationship. In moderation, they often make for a very sweet and servant-hearted disposition. As they become more pronounced, they become qualities that have a magnetic quality for relationships with power imbalances (abusive) and with individuals who have unhealthy life styles (addictions). Bringing these qualities back into a healthy range is almost always a part of the later stages of codependency recovery.
    • Surrendering Voice and Opinions
    • Ruminating and Second Guessing
    • Driven Over-Achievement