Not all decisions can be made through consensus. Couples will not agree on every decision. Some decisions do not allow for a “middle ground” because of limited options. How and when to engage the headship-submission style of decision making will be discussed in chapter five. But a brief preface will be made here. The fact that God gives husbands the role of headship in these kinds of decisions does not mean the husband must / should choose his preference in each instance. While the final call does belong to the husband, it is an unwise husband who always calls his own number.

In the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Decision Making” seminar we will teach three types of decision making that are required in a healthy, biblical marriage.

  1. Personal Decision Making
  2. Consensus Decision Making
  3. Headship-Submission Decision Making

Too often, couples try to force all decision making to fit into one or two of these arenas. They may do this for convenience (but simple becomes simplistic) or conviction (emphasizing some part of what Scripture teaches to the neglect of other parts). Either way, their life lacks balance and begins to show the corresponding wear-and-tear.

Here are the assessment tool and overview of the materials on headship-submission decision making.