Question: I was married for 30+ years before losing my wife a couple of years ago. As a young person and throughout our marriage I struggled with masturbation. Frankly, I can see how it prevented me from enjoying sex with my wife as God intended. I want to honor God better than I have in any other season of my life. But in my loneliness I am prone to fantasize about my wife and masturbate. I know it would be wrong to fantasize about anyone else. Should I abstain from fantasizing about my wife?
Resources: Here are several resources that can be useful in preparing for of following up with the conversation discussed in this VLOG post.
- “Taking the Journey of Grief with Hope” – This is a nine step, gospel-centered, video-based seminar that walks you through the experience of grief as an experience of suffering.
- “False Love: Overcoming Sexual Sin from Pornography to Adultery” – This is a nine step, gospel-centered, video-based seminar that walks you through how to find freedom from sexual sin in Christ.
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Note: The VLOG (video-blog) Q&A is a regular series on my blog. If you would like to submit a question, it can be e-mailed to Summit’s admin over counseling at firstname.lastname@example.org (please note this is an administrative account; no individual or family counsel is provided through e-mail). Please limit your questions to 3-7 sentences. This is not a forum for to request or receive counseling. No responses will be sent to questions other than those selected for a video response.
If this post was beneficial for you, then considering reading other blogs from my “Favorite Posts on Grief” post which address other facets of this subject.