The Fear of the Lord & the Art of Persuasion

“Therefore, knowing the fear of the Lord, we persuade others.” 2 Cor. 5:11 What is the fear of the Lord? That is a question that is larger than can be addressed in a blog post, but I would like to examine one characteristic of fear that may help us experience more of...

Crisis Forgiveness vs. Post-Crisis Forgiveness

A spouse has been unfaithful A spouse hides a major amount of debt A teenager “borrows” the car and wrecks it A friend shares your damaging secret There are many times when we are called to forgive. Usually the moment when the offense is revealed is a powerful moment....

C.S. Lewis on Doubting Faith

A Counselor Reflects on Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis “Faith, in the sense in which I am here using the word, is the art of holding on to things your reason has once accepted, in spite of your changing moods… That is why Faith is such a necessary virtue: unless you...

The Advantage of Going Second

I was recently reminded of how when you talk to someone, it affects the effectiveness of what you are trying to say. When you try to talk to someone who is discouraged after trying to do “the right thing” and failing, anything instructional is often hard for them to...

Effects of an Affair

We know that the betrayal of an affair hurts, but the intensity of the pain, awkwardness of the subject, and crisis-nature of the disclosure often cause us to neglect asking, “What does an affair do that causes it to hurt so badly?” In this post, we will look at three...