The Myth of Compatibility

Too often we treat compatibility as it were a noun (something two people share – like a cupcake or eye color) instead of a verb (something two people do – like synchronized swimming or conversation). There is a big, often overlooked, difference between compatibility...

Being “In Love” and Promises

A Counselor Reflects on Mere Christianity by C.S. Lewis “The idea that being ‘in love’ is the only reason for remaining married really leaves no room for marriage as a contract or promise at all. If love is the whole thing, then the promise can add nothing; and if it...

The Therapeutic Benefit of Community

Millard Erickson makes an important point when he says, “The church is one of the few aspects of Christian theology that can be observed (p. 1036 in Christian Theology).” If his statement is true, then the place where theology should have its most tangible impact is...

God’s Words for Our Insecurity: Psalm 139

Case Study: Jeff would tell people he was a private, introverted person; that he just didn’t want people to know “his business.” But it was more than personality or temperament. It was an insecurity that made relationships feel dangerous. Jeff had a hard time putting...