What Belongs in Love?

What is love? Am I really in love? I love you, but I’m not sure I like you right now. Looking for love in all the wrong places. Agape. Phileo. There are many things we say and ask about love. Hopefully this post does not muddy already murky water. I frequently have...

Should Married Couples Have Any Secrets?

Let’s start by admitting that this question rarely comes up at neutral times. The context for this question is usually when one spouse wants more information than the other is willing to give. So in most settings as soon as you answer, you are “taking sides.” I think...

Reflections on a Messy House

As I type this my home looks like a box farm. In between the evenly spaced rows of boxes are bag weeds and toys weeds sprouting across the floor. It is a chaos that I do not enjoy. But as I have faced it, I have been surprised at how little (relative to previous...

Keeping Score Equals No Winners

This is not a blog post that endorses the politically correct version of children’s sports. Regardless of how many times I tried to tell my son we were just playing t-ball for fun, he still wanted to know “who won?” after every game. But if I don’t depart from this...

Fresh Eyes Marriage Game

Have you ever noticed that you tend to see what you are looking for (unless, of course, you are me looking for my keys – in which case, I can look right at them a dozen times and never see them)? If you go through your day listening for criticism, you’ll probably hear...