We want everything we do as pastors to result in the spiritual development and personal flourishing of those under our care. This could be taken to mean that everything a pastor does is counseling. But it is helpful and appropriate to distinguish between things like: one another care between members, general pastoral care, formal pastoral counseling, and professional counseling.
In this brief, eight lesson series you will be equipped with the basic categories, processes, and skills of serving as a pastoral counselor. The intent is to equip you to utilize your current level of awareness regarding particular life struggles to your fullest pastoral potential.
BEFORE THE FIRST MEETING
These first three lessons provide the concepts necessary to understand key differences between general pastoral care and formal pastoral counseling. Additionally, these initial lessons equip you to shape expectations with the individual seeking counseling and navigate the relational dynamics that change when general pastoral care becomes formal pastoral counseling.
- Lesson One – Getting Started Well
- Lesson Two – Structure of Pastoral Counseling
- Lesson Three – Assessment: Holistic Pastoral Assessment
The first meeting is the most important meeting for counseling. Expectations will be managed, problems will be defined, and goals will be set. The density and intentionality of discussion in a first counseling appointment will set it apart from casual conversations.
- Lesson Four – Listening and Empathy
- Lesson Five – Goal Setting (video to be posted February 4)
If the first session identified “what” and garnered trust, the middle sessions identify “how” and facilitate progress. The transition from the first to middle sessions is a transition from understanding to movement.
- Lesson Six – Directive, Narrative, Reflective, AND Relief-Focused Approaches (video to be posted February 11)
- Lesson Seven – Mental Health and Pastoral Care (video to be posted February 18)
In professional counseling, the last session is the end of the relationship. In pastoral counseling, the last formal counseling session is a transition back to a previous style of relating.
- Lesson Eight – Becoming “Just a Pastor” Again (video to be posted February 25)