The link in the major heading for each emotion below will take you to the evaluation for that subject. After each heading a link to the respective seminar(s) is provided as well as a description of the types of experiences within that addictive tendency that the evaluation will help you assess.
This evaluation is a tool from the “False Love: Overcoming Sexual Sin from Pornography to Adultery”seminar. This evaluation seeks to help you assess the presence and severity of the following expressions of sexual sin.
- Objectifying People
- Public Visual Lust
- Private Narrative Lust
- Soft Pornography
- Hard Pornography
- Interaction with a Real but Anonymous Person
- Emotional Affair
- One Time Sexual Encounter / Affair
- Affair in a Committed Relationship
- Affair as Pseudo Spouse
- Illegal Sexual Sin
- Sexual Addiction
This evaluation is a tool from the “Gaining a Healthy Relationship with Food”seminar which addresses anorexia, bulimia and over-eating. This evaluation seeks to help you assess the presence and severity of the following expressions of disordered eating.
- Emotional Uses of Food
- Unhealthy Food Rules
- Compulsive Exercise
The material for this evaluation is arranged into three categories, which are commonly recognized in addiction research; although different counselors use different vocabulary. Understanding these categories will help you utilize what you learn from this evaluation.
|Stage of Addiction||Common Addiction Language||Craig Nakken Language inThe Addictive Personality||Ed Welch Language inAddictions: A Banquet in the Grave|
|Stage One||Use||Internal Change||Sin|
|Stage Two||Abuse||Lifestyle Change||Slavery|
|Stage Three||Dependence||Life Breakdown||Tragedy|
Under each stage the following characteristics of addiction are assessed.
- Use / Internal Change / Sin
- Violating Wisdom Principles
- Violating Moral Precepts
- Fading Conscience and Loss of Willpower
- Abuse / Lifestyle Change / Slavery
- Lifestyle Adapting to Addiction
- Psychological Dependence /Cravings
- Dependence / Life Breakdown / Tragedy
- Relational and Professional Damage
- Health Damage
- Tragic Life Consequences
The material for this evaluation is arranged into three categories, which are meant to capture different experiences commonly referred to as codependency. The three unhealthy relational patterns are not mutually exclusive. However, this evaluation help you articulate and gauge the severity of patterns common to each unhealthy relational pattern.
- Codependent Relationships Involving Addiction – In this codependent pattern you are responding unhealthily to your loved one’s abuse of pleasure. As your loved one gives more of his or her life to addiction, the neglected responsibilities and added crises begin to fall on those around them. The responses below are the classic unhealthy way that family and friends often respond to these added pressures.
- Covering Up
- Rescuing and Fixing
- Codependent Relationships Involving Abuse – In this codependent pattern you are responding unhealthily to your loved one’s abuse of power. Your loved one thrives on control. In order for them to have more, you must have less. The responses below are the classic unhealthy ways family and friends respond to a relationship built upon an imbalance of power.
- Lying and Creating a False Story
- Constricting Social Sphere
- Codependent Relationships Marked by a Fear of Man – These qualities are often more dispositional than habituated reactions to an unhealthy relationship. In moderation, they often make for a very sweet and servant-hearted disposition. As they become more pronounced, they become qualities that have a magnetic quality for relationships with power imbalances (abusive) and with individuals who have unhealthy life styles (addictions). Bringing these qualities back into a healthy range is almost always a part of the later stages of codependency recovery.
- Surrendering Voice and Opinions
- Ruminating and Second Guessing
- Driven Over-Acheivement