The Summit Church is excited to be a part of this season of your life. It is a time when God will shape your future in powerful ways and we want to equip you to thoroughly enjoy God’s gift of marriage. This page is your one-stop-shop for all things pre-marital at Summit. From this page you will be able to find everything you need.

If you have not already registered for our Preparing for Marriage ministry (PFM), that is your first step. All the information you will need to register for PFM or request Summit pastor to perform your wedding can be found here.

You will also want to join the “Preparing for Marriage” page on The City for up-to-date information on our Engaged Discovery Weekends, upcoming “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage” seminars, and other marital enrichment resources.

If you’re curious about why we choose to utilize mentoring as a major part of our pre-marital ministry, here is video that explains this and how you can get the most out of your PFM experience.

Mentoring Relationship

The rest of this page will orient you to the marriage mentoring relationship. The structured part of this relationship consists of six meetings. Below you will find video description of the primary objectives for each meeting and the resources you’ll use.

First Meeting:
Getting to Know Each Other

As you prepare for your first meeting with your mentors this 3 minute video will help you know what to expect and how to prepare.

***Note: For the first meeting each of you will also need to complete these three on-line evaluations. Please e-mail the results to your mentors as instructed when you complete each evaluation. At the end of this first meeting you and your mentors will decide which of these subjects to focus on in your second meeting.

Once you decide with your mentors which portion of this materials you will focus on, you can watch those portions of the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Foundations” videos here (if a live presentation does not correspond with when you’re at this point).

Second Meeting:
Foundations

As you prepare for your second meeting with your mentors this 4 minute video will help you know what to expect and how to prepare.

Each of you will need to complete these three evaluations. You will review them with your mentors at the end of this meeting to identify your main subject for meeting three.

Once you decide with your mentors which portion of this materials you will focus on, you can watch those portions of the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Communication” videos here (if a live presentation does not correspond with when you’re at this point).

Third Meeting:
Communication

As you prepare for your third meeting with your mentors this 3 minute video will help you know what to expect and how to prepare.

Each of you will need to complete these three evaluations. You will review them with your mentors at the end of this meeting to identify your main subject for meeting four.

Once you decide with your mentors which portion of this materials you will focus on, you can watch those portions of the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Finances” videos here (if a live presentation does not correspond with when you’re at this point).

Fourth Meeting:
Finances

As you prepare for your fourth meeting with your mentors this 3 minute video will help you know what to expect and how to prepare.

You will need to complete these three evaluations. You will review them with your mentors at the end of this meeting to identify your main subject for meeting five.

Once you decide with your mentors which portion of this materials you will focus on, you can watch those portions of the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Decision Making” videos here (if a live presentation does not correspond with when you’re at this point).

Fifth Meeting:
Decision Making

As you prepare for your fifth meeting with your mentors this 3 minute video will help you know what to expect and how to prepare.

You will need to complete these three evaluations. You will review them with your mentors at the end of this meeting to identify your main subject for meeting six.

Once you decide with your mentors which portion of this materials you will focus on, you can watch those portions of the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage: Intimacy” videos here (if a live presentation does not correspond with when you’re at this point).

Sixth Meeting:
Intimacy

As you prepare for your sixth meeting with your mentors this 3 minute video will help you know what to expect and how to prepare.

Here is a letter where we recommend what things to focus on how that you’ve completed the structured part of our mentoring program – PFM Completion Letter.

 What Now?

At your sixth meeting, you and your mentor couple will discuss how and when you’ll get together. Stay connected with your mentor couple. By now you know they volunteered for this ministry because they want to be a blessing to young couples like you guys. Allow them to be the blessing God has called them to be.

In your small group (click here if you are not in one), you can go through any of the “Creating a Gospel-Centered Marriage” seminars. This is a great way to get the material you didn’t cover with your mentors and to reinforce these important principles during the formative first months/years of your marriage.

If you need additional counseling assistance, please look at the various services we provides here.