This is a weekly post that highlights resources from other counselors that I have found helpful. The counselors may be from the biblical counseling, Christian psychology, integration, or secular counseling traditions. By linking to a post, I am not giving it my full endorsement, I am merely indicating that I believe it made a unique contribution or raised an important subject for consideration.
A High School Counselor’s Tips on Parenting Teenagers by Leia Joseph
I have had the privilege of spending the last 13 years working as a music teacher and crisis counselor for teens. The following six tips represent a handful of lessons I have learned along the way. If you are the parent of a teenager or pre-teen, I pray that you find this helpful.
- Here is a collection my resources on parenting.
Post-Abortion Counseling by Julie Ganschow
It is estimated that 43 percent of women under the age of forty-five have had an abortion. One in six women in the evangelical Christian church is post-abortive.1 We live in a culture that idolizes personal choice and convenience, and as a result, more women than we are aware of are dealing with the aftereffects of abortion. Because of this, we have to know how to minister to this group of people in our churches. Below, we’ll take a look at three key ways we can minister to them well.
- Often trauma is a neglected aspect of post-abortion counseling. Here is a collection of resources on trauma.
The Need for Cultural Humility by Dave
I had an interesting conversation with a couple at church a few Sundays ago. They both were born in Africa, but have lived in the US for a number of years. In discussing children, they told me that they were concerned about raising their daughter in America because of the dangers here. Without a second thought, I knew exactly what they were talking about. As Americans we have become accustomed to comfort, such that we think we deserve it. We have grown cold to the suffering of those in the majority world, and we are greatly tempted to live only for ourselves.
- If you want to learn more about cultural intelligence, see the “What I’m Reading” section below.
8 Signs of a Man Who Will Never Stop Loving You by Matt Duczeminski
We men sometimes get a bad rap. The stereotypical “man” doesn’t do any of the following. However, the only men who are actually like this are created by writers as sitcom fodder (hopefully). In truth, when a man finds the person he knows he’ll be spending the rest of his life with, he’ll certainly work his hardest to keep them by his side at all times. If you have a man that adheres to the following, you know he’s a keeper for life.
- If your spouse has been unfaithful, here is a collection of resources on adultery.
When Anger Rears Its Ugly Head by Duski Van Vleet
I’ve been trying to get control of my temper since my husband and I were married. A day planned and interrupted by children with different agendas; a husband who needs my support instead of first offering his, longings unrealized; efforts unseen—all of this often leads me not to a dependent conversation with my Father, but to self-reliant angry outbursts demanding my desires be fulfilled.
- If you want to grow in your ability to express anger in a more godly manner, here is a resource on overcoming anger.
What I’m Reading
Customs of the World: Using Cultural Intelligence to Adapt, Wherever You Are by David Livermore. Taught by an international adviser to leaders of Fortune 500 companies, nonprofits, and governments, this eye-opening course reveals how you can actively improve your cultural intelligence in an increasingly globalized world.
Based on groundbreaking research, these 24 lectures address dynamics and customs related to working, socializing, dining, marriage and family – all the areas necessary to help you function with a greater level of respect and effectiveness wherever you go. You’ll also encounter practical tips and crucial context for greeting, interacting with, and even managing people from other parts of the world.
In the first half, you’ll analyze 10 cultural value dimensions that researchers have identified as helpful for comparing cultures; and you’ll see how these “archetypes” play out in day-to-day lives. In the second half, you’ll look at 10 cultural clusters around the world that – when combined with your understanding of the 10 cultural dimensions – provide strategic insight into how to be more effective as you live, work, and travel in our globalized world.
Tweets of the Week
Envy is a sin of comparison that offers no reward. Winning the comparison leads to pride, losing the comparison leads to despair.
— challies (@challies) April 22, 2017
Why do I persist in the church when I've been hurt deeply there? Bc I've found deep healing there too, & I've found God is enough for it all
— Shannon Dingle (@ShannonDingle) April 20, 2017
— Allen Frances (@AllenFrancesMD) April 20, 2017
On the Lighter Side
Because, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones,” Proverbs 17:22.
As both a professor and a student I resonate with this one.