This is a weekly post that highlights resources from other counselors that I have found helpful. The counselors may be from the biblical counseling, Christian psychology, integration, or secular counseling traditions. By linking to a post, I am not giving it my full endorsement, I am merely indicating that I believe it made a unique contribution or raised an important subject for consideration.
Three Essential Things Parents Should Share with Their Kids on New Years Day by Bruce and Lauren Ashford
It’s beginning to look a lot like New Year’s everywhere we go, from the “Auld Lang Syne” music loop at the local coffee shop to the discounted post-Christmas merchandise at Kohl’s. We find ourselves preparing for New Year’s Eve dinners and parties, going to parades and city square celebrations, and looking forward to football games and finger food. In the midst of all this, many of us are trying to discern how to teach our children about why New Year’s matters. Let’s be honest, it feels easier to share the meaning of Christmas than it does New Year’s. If Christmas teaches the depths of God’s love and encourages our children to pass along that love to others through generosity and sacrificial giving, what does New Year’s Day teach? Fortunately, it provides the opportunity to expand upon the lessons Christmas teaches as we…
Fostering FAQ: What If I Get Attached and Then Lose the Child? by Ashley Gorman
Of all the questions about foster care, this one is numero uno. It’s the heartbreak question. The “how-do-you-do-that-when-you-know-you-could-lose-the-child” question. I feel especially soft toward this question, as our foster child (we call him Baby Boy on the internet for privacy reasons) just left our care after living with us for about two months. We had him. We loved him. And now he’s not living here anymore. I was his temporary mom. And then I wasn’t anymore. I’m living out this question right now, sitting here, typing on this couch.
The husband who lacks emotional intelligence rejects his wife’s influence because he fears a loss of power. And because he is unwilling to accept influence, he will not be influential. The emotionally intelligent husband is interested in his wife’s emotions because he honors and respects her. While this man may not express his emotions in the same way his wife does, he will learn how to better connect with her.
Study: Psychology Textbooks Have PC Bias by Toni Airaksinen
“[P]sychology as a discipline leans heavily liberal,” Ferguson said. “I don’t mean that’s unfortunate in the sense it would be better to lean conservative, but simply that the intellectual diversity isn’t there. The result is endemic biases that inevitably reach down into textbooks and make them political statements, not always science texts.”
Understanding a Counselee’s Cultural Context for Wise Counseling (PDF) by Jonathan Holmes
I believe biblical counselors can and should use the world around us to bring scriptural truth to life. Sometimes I think we fear becoming integrationists in our counseling, so it leads us to a functional indifference when it comes to incorporating insights from the world into our counseling. Surely we can chart a course between integration and indifference. How do we rightly leverage the world we live in for use in counseling? I believe we can do so in a way that does not undermine the sufficiency of Scripture.
What I’m Reading
Transgender: Christian Compassion, Convictions and Wisdom for Today’s Big Questions by Vaughn Roberts. There’s been huge cultural change in the last few decades. Same-sex marriage would have been unthinkable 20 or 30 years ago. Now it’s almost universally accepted in the Western world. Now suddenly the issue of transgender is the next big social, cultural issue that has dominated the headlines.
Vaughan Roberts surveys the Christian worldview and seeks to apply these principles to the many complex questions surrounding gender identity. This short book gives an overview and a starting point for constructive discussion as we seek to live in a world with different values, and love, serve and relate to transgender people. Talking Points is a series of short books designed to help Christians think, talk and relate to others with compassion, conviction and wisdom about today’s big issues.
Tweet of the Week
"Suffering ceases to be suffering at the moment it finds a meaning." Viktor E. Frankl
— Eliza Jane Huie (@ElizaJaneHuie) December 30, 2016
If you get an emotional experience out of worship but aren't willing to obey, you are using God without giving yourself to him. – Keller
— Humble Beast (@humblebeast) December 28, 2016
On the Lighter Side
Because, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones,” Proverbs 17:22.