This is a weekly post that highlights resources from other counselors that I have found helpful. The counselors may be from the biblical counseling, Christian psychology, integration, or secular counseling traditions. By linking to a post, I am not giving it my full endorsement, I am merely indicating that I believe it made a unique contribution or raised an important subject for consideration.
10 Signs You May be an Authoritarian Parent by Amy Morin, LCSW
Authoritarian parenting is one of the four main parenting styles recognized by researchers. It’s characterized by rigid rules and high demands. Authoritarian parents have high standards and can be highly critical when those standards aren’t met. They also tend to offer less emotional warmth compared to authoritative parents. Read on to find out if you exhibit any of the characteristics of an authoritarian parent.
- Here is a collection of resources on parenting.
Single Parents: Is Your Church Meeting Their Unique Needs? by Linda Jacobs
Regarding Single & Parenting, Angela Thomas says, “I think this program is so powerful for the church for several reasons: it meets an immediate need of the single parents who are already attending your church and also the needs of their single friends whom they invite. So not only do you meet the needs of your body, but you have the opportunity to reach out to the community, to those who are hurting and wounded and truly don’t have any other place to turn to find answers for how to be a single parent.”
7 Trademarks Of An Unhealthy Friendship by Paul Tripp
Begin you start reading, let me warn you: it will be very tempting for you to identify a friend or former friend who can be characterized by these trademarks. The Bible surely sympathizes with, and provides comfort for, those who have suffered in relationships. No one understands the hurt caused by poor friends more than Jesus Christ! However, the point of this passage is for us to examine our own hearts, not convict others. As you read, fire your inner defense lawyer and ask the Lord to show you areas of personal weakness in your relationships.
- See the “What I’m Reading” section below for a great book on friendship.
What Are the Essential Qualities of Effective Therapists? by Kenneth Miller, Ph.D.
Good therapists, like all helpful listeners, seem to possess a particular set of attributes, the same set of common factors that explain why most forms of therapy are about equally effective. It’s simply not clear whether graduate schools, which focus so heavily on specific theoretical models and their related techniques, are actually training students in the qualities that seem most critical to effective therapy. And that raises an even more fundamental question: Can these common factors actually be taught? To what extent are they personality attributes rather than teachable skills? Can graduate school really make students more empathic, enhance their interpersonal skills, or increase their tolerance for intense emotions? Are good therapists already effective helpers before they get to graduate school?
- This post on “The Therapeutic Benefits of Community” also examines research on what makes counseling effective.
25 Fun Questions To Ask Your Spouse by Casey and Meygan at Marriage365
We call them open ended questions. The point here is that you talk, laugh, dream and learn more about each other. Some questions are silly while others really get you thinking about some possible big life decisions. Either way, pull these out on your next date night or after the kids go to bed and spend time connecting.
- If that’s not enough, here are 240 more conversation starters.
What I’m Reading
The Company We Keep: In Search of Biblical Friendship by Jonathan Holmes. Friendship: it’s one of the simplest of human relationships in comparison to marriage or family relationships, yet it’s one of the least understood and practiced. For all of our progress in making connections through Facebook, Twitter, and other social media, people are consistently experiencing loneliness and growing disenchanted with the whole notion of friendship.
Could it be that our understanding of friendship has been more informed by pop culture and social media, and less informed by the vision of friendship offered in Scripture? Is it possible that friendship exists for a greater purpose than merely our enjoyment and comfort? Does real friendship involve more than just hanging out on a weekend, participating in a book club, or hitting the golf course together? These questions and more are answered in this book.
Biblical friendship is deep, honest, pure, transparent, and liberating. It is also attainable. Dig into this book, and learn how your friendships can embody this amazing and wonderful reality.
Tweets of the Week
"Patience is more interested in direction and less interested in how fast people are changing."
~ Ed Welch
— Jeremy Wright (@jeremyowright) March 11, 2017
"You can teach what you know, but you only reproduce who you are." – Among Wolves by @dhati
— Bowe Butler (@bowebutler) March 13, 2017
“The cross is the place where we find the freedom to accept ourselves without being proud, & to challenge ourselves without being crushed.”
— Tim Keller Wisdom (@DailyKeller) March 10, 2017
On the Lighter Side
Because, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones,” Proverbs 17:22.