This is a weekly post that highlights resources from other counselors that I have found helpful. The counselors may be from the biblical counseling, Christian psychology, integration, or secular counseling traditions. By linking to a post, I am not giving it my full endorsement, I am merely indicating that I believe it made a unique contribution or raised an important subject for consideration.
There are many ways that you can express your pastoral care for those considering adoption and those who have adopted already. As an adoptive father and former pastor, I offer a few thoughts on how to help adoption become a biblically based, heart-led, missional movement in your church and not merely another program on your church’s list.
- For more resources see the Together for Adoption site.
Letter to a Gay Student by Michael Guyer
Thank you for sharing this news with me. I really am honored you would entrust me with something so personal. Before I say anything else, I want you to know that I love you and am for you. That was true before you shared this with me and that will continue to be so long after this conversation. I would love to grab lunch or coffee soon to hear how you are doing and how you are processing everything in your life right now. Sometimes life throws a lot at you and, if you’re like me, you need some other people to bear the weight of it all with you. Until we are able to meet, I wanted to share my heart with you.
- If you want to grow in being this kind of friend, consider this presentation from my book Do Ask, Do Tell, Let’s Talk.
Are Therapists Just Rent-a-Friends? by David Feldman
It’s virtually a rite of passage: At some point in every psychologist’s career, he or she must confront a psychotherapy skeptic. My first opportunity came years ago when I was seated on an airplane next to a middle-aged business traveler in a charcoal gray suit, white shirt, and maroon tie. I’m not one for idle mid-flight conversation, but the man was feeling chatty. He asked what I did for a living, and I told him I was a psychologist, to which he replied, “Oh! A rent-a-friend.”
- If you want to know more about counseling, consider this series of posts on counseling theory.
Four Helpful Words for Parents by Eliza Jane Huie
“Don’t take it personally.” These four simple words were helpful while parenting my own children. It is not a broad brush to cover all parenting conflicts, but I believe it is something all parents need to consider more often when raising children in the preteen and teen years. Let’s explore what this means and how it can help interactions with your children.
- If you want to learn more, here is a collection of posts and resources on parenting.
Ten Unfair Expectations of Pastors’ Wives by Thom Rainer
The pastor’s wife in many churches carries heavy burdens. Sometimes they are impossible expectations. To be fair, this post could refer to any church staff person, male or female, so it could be called ministers’ spouses. For simplicity, and because I primarily hear from this group of people, I refer to them as pastors’ wives. So what are some of these unfair expectations? Here are the top ten expectations imposed upon these ladies.
- For more on this subject I would recommend Diane Langberg’s book Counsel for Pastors’ Wives.
What I’m Reading
Desire burns within you. You’ve trained and dreamt of doing large things in famous ways as fast as you can for God’s glory. But pastoral work keeps requiring your surrender to small, mostly overlooked things over long periods of time.
You stand at a crossroads. Jesus stands with you. You were never meant to know everything, fix everything, and be everywhere at once. That’s his job, not yours.
So what now? Let the apprenticeship begin.
Tweets of the Week
Kids need to experience appropriate levels of risk and failure in order to mature in a healthy way.
— Tim Elmore (@TimElmore) August 31, 2017
“Cultural Christianity means pursuing the God we want instead of the God who is.” – Patrick Morley via @FamilyLifeToday
— David Robbins (@DavidRobbinsCru) September 2, 2017
When I stopped seeing fear as failure & instead saw it as the ticket price for doing new things, I started having a lot more fun.
— Jon Acuff (@JonAcuff) September 2, 2017
On the Lighter Side
Because, “A joyful heart is good medicine, but a crushed spirit dries up the bones,” Proverbs 17:22.
Such a great story of perseverance!